Acceptance can change your reality. We are normally aren’t taught to practice acceptance in our daily life.
“Just don’t think about it”. This is what I have heard too since my childhood. People resist thinking about their problem and guess what, they are not able to feel the pain and later it corrodes them from inside.
Today, I’ll be talking about how acceptance changed my life and lead me to live a worry-free life.
“Of course there is no formula for success except, perhaps, an unconditional acceptance of life and what it brings.” ~Arthur Rubinstein
I was an average student or just above average. I had poor grades in many subjects. I always got jealous of my friends and classmates as they score much better than me.
I was fighting deep inside withing me. Why am I so bad? How can they perform so well? Why can’t I remember things?
A lot of thoughts come and go inside our minds. We keep thinking about the same things over and over again.
If anyone had done something bad to us, we often ended up thinking about them. How can he even do this to me?
What I have personally felt that most of us keep visualizing the past incidents and let us win over the situation.
If someone had insulted us once, we will keep imagining that moment and often think bad and insulting behavior to that person inside our mind.
In the book The subtle art of not giving a fuck, Mark Manson says, “Maturity is what happens when one learns to only give a fuck about what’s truly fuckworthy.”
We all have a lot of problems, insults, grudges, etc. But we need to get our mind to handle these situations.
If we keep thinking about every simple and small thing then we end up running our life.
Acceptance is a practice to accept reality and move on happily without holding grudges against anyone.
During my graduation, some of my friends had family issues. I used to worry a lot about them. What could I have done for them? Why his family will listen to me? I had no money, how can even support them?
I often got a headache thinking about them. It all changed when I came to know about acceptance.
If you can’t change something, accept it and move on. Let the time heals everything.
Some people like me are very sensitive and even very small issues in life make a big difference.
How to accept reality and move on?
Here are a few tips for accepting reality and move on in your life, that I studied and found useful which helped me too:
1. Forgive everyone: Don’t hold grudges. The best thing I learned is that “Everyone is doing best for you with all the knowledge and sense they have got. If someone does bad for you, forgive them instead of harming them.”
Forgiveness is often defined as an individual’s, voluntary internal process of letting go of feelings and thoughts of resentment, bitterness, anger, grudges and the need for vengeance and retribution toward someone who we believe has done wrong with them, including ourselves too.
2. Practice acceptance daily: Every morning, you get a fresh new start. If you are still thinking about the past day and past week incident, you will not be able to let new things come into your life.
Before sleeping, do it for a few minutes.
Close your eyes and imagine every person who did wrong with you today, every person you argued today and every moment you let yourself flow and told something bad to somebody, and say sorry.
Say inside your mind that you are sorry for everything. You are forgiving everyone including yourself and you no longer hold any grudges against them.
Doing it daily will make you use the next day better and often feel happy and live an anxiety-free life.
3. Accept the reality: We often go through a hard time. We wish our life should be easy and simple too.
Accept reality. Don’t fool yourself. If you are not able to do something then don’t fight hard to do it.
Accept that you don’t know how to do it and start fresh and learn to do it.
I had hated myself a lot for choosing the wrong college and course in my graduation. I don’t take a good decision, this is what I always use to think.
I accepted everything. I accepted every decision, action, and consequences. I started fresh. I started to take an interest in my subject. I started to get involved in the class. I had accepted that I don’t know anything but I want to learn.
It made a big difference. I scored the highest marks that year and even awarded a medal for it.
Accepting the reality let you start from the beginning without any ego.
4. Love yourself: We hate our self for everything happening to us. Love yourself. Love the way you are and love the achievement you have. Don’t be overconfident but just feel enough, complete, and smile each day.
Everything in your life starts with you. If you are not feeling positive about yourself, you will end up being frustrated and hopeless about the world.
Here is self-love quote I liked the most:
“You alone are enough. You have nothing to prove to anyone.” Maya Angelou
Yes, you are enough, don’t prove yourself. Accept yourself and clear all the negative thoughts from your mind. Be clear and calm. Be happy.
Acceptance is the way to make life better.
Don’t fight, don’t resist.
Accept and persists.
Let your mind accept the new ideas by forgiving and letting go of the old incidents. Let yourself feel the power of time. Let the time heal everything.